First off, freedom is a relative term and we have to figure out what freedom means to us. Some great questions to ask ourselves to figure that out is, “At the end of my life, what do I want to have achieved? Left behind? Built? Who did I want to be? What value did I want to add?”
I know what freedom is to me, in a very intricate and detailed fashion. But it wasn’t always that way. I’d ask myself these questions five years ago and come up with answers like “travel” or “family” not knowing what the heck I meant by that.
I’ve heard it said many times………
“If you are doing things today that will not get you to where you want to be five years from now, you need to stop doing those things immediately.”
What a “frustrating to the core” piece of advice! For myself that was basically saying, “Sarah you just need to stop doing 99% of your life and start over.” Thanks. How the hell do I do that?! I was standing in a massive pit with no ladder to climb up to solid ground.
Today, I have a lot of freedoms. They’re small, but they’re EVERYWHERE. Don’t get me wrong, I’m like everyone else who has a healthy amount of challenges and stresses that take place on a daily basis, but the major difference is that I now find myself saying, “Yes I signed up for this!” vs. “Why is this happening to me?!” I believe it’s when we find ourselves saying the bolded statement that we really know we’re on the right path.
Derek and I are still barely scratching the surface of achieving our overall freedom. In fact I don’t believe we ever will because as one door closes another opens, and we love the process of knowing that we will never make it to the top of the mountain, but we will die climbing it as high as we can. (btw that’s not meant to be depressing. If we could reach the top in our lifetime and there was nothing left to accomplish or discover, that’d be depressing.)
Wherever we are, with whatever we currently have, we have to start making conscious decisions to make changes moving forward where we can, as often as we can, with as much effort as we possibly can.
Ok cool. So what does this freedom you speak of look like for you Sarah?
I’ll give you one simple example.
For myself today, living in a 400sqft apartment three blocks from the beach is freedom because prior to this point in my life, I had (most of the time) had a house to go back to, but I never had a safe haven that I was stoked to go back to. For some of you, you have had that, and living in our 400sqft apartment would be a nightmare and I don’t think that either one of us is wrong.
My freedom is not yours. Yours is not mine. But the feeling of freedom is the same in your heart as it is in mine. We desire the same thing. The difference comes down to who is willing to work for theirs and who isn’t. Are you?